“I had bruises on my arms and chest for 3 years. She’d get mad and swing at me. I showed her the bruises, I’d tell her it wasn’t right. She’d say things that because she was 5’2” and 100 pounds and I was 6’2” and 260 that she couldn’t hurt me.
She knew it pissed me off, but I think she wanted me to hit her back (her dad hit her mom). I’d sit there and take the abuse and not hit back.
After we broke up we ran into each other at a bar and I ended up going home with her. We got into an argument about shit she stole from my parents house (little stuff, sheets and towels and things that one needs when they move out on their own. My parents had let her live with them rent free so she could finish community college. Her parents couldn’t afford any sort of help and after her 18th birthday she was on her own).
So we got into a drunken argument and she started hitting me. I grabbed her wrists, squeezed pretty hard (it probably hurt) and told her she was never going to fucking hit me again. I pushed her back onto her couch, collected my stuff (and things she’d stolen) and left.
The next day the cops arrested me. I was charged not only with assault, but a bunch of other bullshit that eventually got dropped.
All violence is wrong. I shouldn’t have grabbed her wrists. But I was just defending myself from being punched. No one cared. The DA didn’t care that my buddies had seen the bruises on me for years. I took a plea deal in exchange for them dropping all the other made up charges. It was 2 years probation or risk 20-life in jail.
If our sexes were reversed. If a woman had been beaten by a man and then 1 time she restrained the guy by the wrists, she wouldn’t be arrested. She’d be a hero. They’d make a movie about her staring Jennifer Lopez and call it ‘Enough’. But JLo would get to kick the guys ass for a while before being called a hero.
That girl (with the help of the government) ruined my life. I spent 4 years dealing with the charges, and I was treated like a criminal the whole time. I’ll always have a criminal record. And I’ll always have an arrest record that shows all the bullshit charges based on pure lies.
Glad your situation came out better.”—Violence against men; you can ignore it all you want, but in the end, you’re just a man hating bitch (via sometimesman)
6:24am Fenris refuses to go to sleep. I have attempted to place him gently into his nappy-time spots numerous times since he has awoken me at 4:18am… to no avail. He seems to be taking advantage of my energy levels by darting into places he knows he should not be. Forcing me to get up and retrieve him. He is currently drinking from his water unit giving me a few seconds to document his behavior. Mayhaps he is becoming anxious as I had made him aware last night that he will be getting his vaccinations today. His rebellion will cost him dearly. —